Being friends first then dating
Because I fell for it once and will no longer fall for it, I simply feel pity for them and sometimes even want to smack them upside the head.
I can handle physical pain, but emotional pain is something else.
I went for exactly the woman I wanted and basically followed her around and did lots of stuff for her. So my question is this; does it ever work and is it ever truly "safe" or is it just a convenience for one party to get the other to do stuff for them?
It always seems very one-sided and I see guys (especially) falling for this all the time.
We kept things friendly and fun rather than expecting things to turn romantic or physical right away.
By not overtly expecting sex, commitment, or even compatibility upfront, and instead focusing on just creating a series of fun, memorable experiences, we had implicitly set the precedent for a approach to dating.
This friendship-first approach has fundamentally changed my understanding of dating and relationships.
Observe what happened next…A year after meeting Jessica, I needed to travel to a new city for work and I realized that I had no place to stay there.
The next week, I hosted a board game night and invited her so she could meet some of my friends.
Over the course of our time together, we talked about plenty of our romantic and sexual preferences, but neither of us pressed for anything physical.
Last year, I met a girl named Jessica on Ok Cupid and we agreed to meet up and go on an adventure date throughout Seattle.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating